Or does it? Do we have to feel sad and lonely because we're house bound, bed bound, ill disabled or just single? This is my opinion....
P.S. Ignore the crazy eyes, it was the best thumbnail on offer!
Valentine’s Day can be really difficult if you’re single. It’s even harder if you’re stuck at home. Instead of feeling the love, you end up feeling very alone.
What do you do if you’re ill or disabled and are unable to go out to have fun? If you’re bored of being stuck at home, sick of the same four walls?
The solution – you bring the party to you and I'm doing just that with my Party in your Pad. It breaks the isolation and monotony, by creating a fun, relaxing experience at home. It gives you something to look forward to, a way to enjoy the day, without having to be part of a couple.
On 14th February, I'll be throwing a Valentine’s Day Party in your Pad, celebrating friendship and love around the world; but party goers never leave the comfort of their own home.
Instead you get exclusive access to the online virtual party area, where you can download and print all the digital party content, everything you need to have a fabulous Party in your Pad.
The party goers also receive two virtual experiences, a virtual tea party in a rose garden and some virtual archery, Cupid style. They come as an e-book or audio that you can enjoy. They are similar to guided meditations; but are much more exciting than lying on a beach. It takes you on a journey through the imagination, allowing you to relax and have fun.
The last virtual party was for New Year’s Eve and we all had so much fun. It was great being able to share the party with other people. It made it that much more real.
“I must admit I wasn’t sure about signing up for the party, as I don’t like New Year much and the thought of doing something seemed a bit of an effort. I’m so glad I did though, as it was great. My family joined in with me and we all enjoyed it.” commented one guest.
No one should feel alone at any time of the year; but it’s often worse during public holidays. I want to use my experiences to help others have a good time, despite the daily challenges they face.
The virtual parties and holidays focus on escaping reality for a little while, returning feeling more relaxed and with lots of happy memories.
To join the Valentine's Day Party, and also access all the other Parties in your Pad I'm throwing in the next few months, then become a Live in Love in Laugh in member. Details here...
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I'm doing a course at the moment called Unleash Yourself and it's all about letting go of fear and finding what works for you. You can find more details here... http://leahshapiro.com/unleash-yourself/ It's definitely worth doing, I'm only on day two and it's making me realise and release so many things, I'm excited by it. I feel like I'm moving in the direction I've been wanting my life to go.
We've been talking about aligning with what's right for you and how when you find it and do what feels right, it's expansive. For me it feels like I can breathe again. It's as if everything in the world falls into place and it just makes sense. My aim is to feel like that all the time. I'm trusting if it feels icky then it's not right and I need to look for what feels better.
One of the things that makes me feel expansive is this beautiful piece of music by Trevor Morris, I first heard it on and fell in love with it. When (not if!) my book gets turned into a film, this is the guy I want to do the soundtrack!
I just had to share it with you. Enjoy!
PS Let me know what makes you feel like you can breathe
Isn't it easy to get caught up in life and your daily routine? You get so used to all the things you have to do every day, the pacing, the resting, and the tasks that you have to get done just to live. Life becomes a job, a chore and fun things that you love get pushed to the bottom of your To Do list.
I've been really bad at this in the past, I get so caught up in achieving things while still managing my health, that I forget it's okay to take time to just have fun. I end up feeling frustrated and overwhelmed, desperate for a break, for things to change; but I forget that I'm the one with the power to do something about that. I can't magically get better or change my circumstances; but I can give myself permission to do some of the things I enjoy - like having a read in the middle of the day, sitting down with a mug of tea and watching a film, or even having some chocolate without feeling guilty! What do you wish you could do right now? What's stopping you? Is there a way you can break it down into smaller steps so you can enjoy a little part of it now or work towards being able to do it?
The really funny thing for me is that most of the things on my To Do list have been about putting together the Parties in your Pad, for Halloween and Bonfire Night. I got so busy writing the pumpkin picking and trick or treating experiences for Halloween and the bonfire party for 5th November that I forgot that I want to join in with them too! The whole reason I set Live in Love in Laugh in up was because I wanted to be able to have fun and more of a social life within my four walls and meet people who feel the same.
When I realised that I hadn't got any of the ingredients for our Halloween feast or chosen the film I wanted to watch I realised I was doing something wrong. It was time to allow myself to join in and have fun and that's exactly what I'm doing. Suddenly I feel more relaxed, more optimistic and life just feels better and easier to cope with.
If you're feeling overwhelmed and frustrated by life and you want to have some fun right now, then you can join me and the Live in Love in Laugh in members for a great time and lots of fun. We're all about living the best life we can and sharing that with others. . Join us now...
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Does this sound familiar?
If this is you then you're why I do what I do and why I set up Live in Love in Laugh in. I know exactly how you feel, because I feel like it too and I'm doing all I can to stop feeling like this and help you stop feeling like it too. I know how horrible it is and I wish I had a magic wand for you, me and everyone out there who has to live like that. Until I find that wand, I want to create something to lessen the pain, to distract you from the harsh reality of everyday and give you something fun to enjoy and look forward to. See how I'm doing that with Live in Love in Laugh in here...
For me, happiness always looked a certain way - it was me, healthy, busy, in a relationship with a good man for me, married or at least engaged, with a successful career, a good income, in my own house, with a great social life, a big group of friends and a few best friends. Fairly standard really, nothing out of the ordinary and it didn't feel like I was asking for too much - I mean that's what most people have, right?
For a long time I've thought that I wouldn't or couldn't be happy until I achieved all of those things - not just a couple; but every single thing on the "happiness list". I even had a mental check-list in my head to cross things off. I wasn't doing very well with it though. Still living at home, a long way from healthy, relationship? Well that would involve me being able to actually meet anyone, plus how could I expect somebody to deal with my health limitations, hardly seemed fair. Friendships - tick; but I'm not able to see them much - especially the ones who live on the other side of the country or even the world.
The only thing I knew I'd found was my passion - you're looking at it - helping people who feel stuck, just like me, and who want more from life.
It was the only thing in my life I was really sure of and it has brought me happiness; but I thought that didn't count because there were so many other areas in my life that I wasn't happy about. Surely the negatives out-weigh the positives and then make it a negative too? The frustration has to overwhelm the joy, right?
Sometimes it did, sometimes it didn't; but either way the aching lack of the things I wanted, made happiness seem impossible.
Then a few weeks ago I read a book which was saying that the happiness millionaires experience is no different to the happiness that you or I feel when we're doing something we love. There's only one type of joy and if you feel it, it's real and important. That struck such a chord with me, this sudden realisation that I could be healthy, I could be rich, I could be a million different things; but the moments when I feel the world light up around me, when I'm watching my favourite TV show, I'm eating a piece of cake, preferably chocolate, I'm playing solitaire on the computer (yes I know all these fancy new games and my favourite is still solitaire), when my favourite song comes on the radio or I'm lost in a good book - those moments of happiness are real and true. That joy couldn't get any better, in that moment I couldn't be any happier. It was such a huge realisation for me!
Of course that doesn't change the fact that there are still lots of things in my life I wish I could change; but I realised that I don't have to wait for them to be different for me to acknowledge happiness. I never really understood the saying "Happiness is a journey, not a destination". I mean theoretically I understood it; but I didn't "get" it. Now I do. Now it makes sense.
I'm not happy 100% of the time, I'm not even sure how much of the time I am truly happy; but I am starting to recognise it more and know that it is real and that I want to appreciate it. To be aware so that I can see it when it happens again and it's like I'm becoming more attuned to it, so that I know what happiness feels like for me, it even seems to be happening more, or at least I can "see" it when it does happen.
The vision of what I want my life to be like still exists in my head, it's still the place I desperately want to get to; but until it does happen (if/when) then I'm going to enjoy happiness wherever I find it.
Where do you find happiness? What makes you smile? Are you aware of it when it happens? I'd love to hear your experiences.
I won the Good Housekeeping Novel Competition. My novel, The Choice, is published on 26th December 2019, by Orion
Title: The Choice
Published: 26th December 2019
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