If you read my post Coping with "Big" Birthdays when you're ill or disabled. Turning 18, 21, 30, 40, 50... Things to be proud of you'll know that on 30th March I will be turning 30! I tried ignoring it, pretending it wasn't happening and then decided I wanted to make the best of it, so I'm throwing a Virtual Party in your Pad.
In fact what could be better than a 1930's Vintage Party, for my 30th on the 30th?
I'd like to invite you to join me and the other virtual party guests for some 1930's fun - it's going to be fabulous!
We'll be sipping on cocktails, while relaxing to the sounds of a big band. It's going to be a night to remember!
To sign up and get the exclusive party audio and magazine, as well as finding out all the juicy details on how it works, go here... http://www.clairewade.com/party.html
I'm determined my 30th is going to be a day to remember and I'd love you to help me make it that!
Ten years ago I was really poorly, I'd been bed bound for three years with ME/CFS and I was struggling. There was little information around for people who were so ill, half the medical profession didn't know you could get that ill with ME, the other half didn't believe it even existed. I was frustrated and isolated and I knew that I wanted to do something about it. I decided I'd put together a leaflet of tips for people with severe ME and gather up all the things that worked for me and others with the chronic illness.
It was a slow process; I couldn't physically read or write, I was just too ill. I had to dictate everything to my Mum, who was brilliant. Gradually we put it all together, over a couple of years. It expanded as we realised how much information we had to share, from a leaflet, to a small booklet, to realising it needed to become a whole book! It was incredible watching it come together and know that it was going to help people, make a difference.
Finally in 2004 it was printed by a charity I was working with and they sent it out for free, to all their severely affected members. I was so proud of it and delighted at the positive reaction it got. There had been a huge gap and I'd filled it with a practical guide to living with ME. I heard back from sufferers, from doctors and OTS, specialists who were using it with their patients. The book had gone further than I ever imagined it could!
Things changed, life moved on and I gradually got a bit better, leaving a lot of it behind as I explored new challenges. Now though, it feels like the right time to go back and update the book one last time. To add to it all the knowledge I've gained since the first publication and to bring it into the world again. Not just for people with ME/CFS; but for anyone that's living with a chronic illness, because I've met more people and realised that a lot of the themes and information are relevant to all kinds of illnesses.
It feels very strange and emotional to look back on it. To revisit what was my own personal hell. I'm on the other side and that helps; but it does bring all the horror back. It feels important to do this, not just for the new people I know it can help; but for me too. There's a lot that happened during that time that I suppressed, because I was just too weak to deal with it; but now feels the time to bring it out into the light, to see it for what it is and to release it once and for all.
Surviving Severe ME changed lives and I know that the new version Thriving not Surviving, LIVING life with chronic illness, is going to do even more.
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I've been watching some amazing videos by Marie Forleo on business - it's my big goal for 2013 to get my business out into the world. Marie invited people to make a video for her about who we are and what we do. This is mine...
If you want to get some business inspiration and motivation check out Marie at http://rhhbschool.com/ Her weekly videos are amazing and so helpful. She covers such a wde variety of topics to do with running your own business and they're fun! No dull monologues or preachy lectures.
I love that Marie puts her personality into everything she does. It's something I'm realising is not only okay; but also good to do. I always thought business should be starchy and professional, like a bank. I never thought you could actually do what you love, be yourself and be successful. That's what I'm doing now. It's harder than you would think to be yourself, to not filter yourself to be the way you think people want you to be; but I'm working on it! And having fun too!
I have everything crossed for the scholarship because I would love to work with Marie, she's awesome! I know that her marketing expertise would change things forever for me and for Live in Love in Laugh in. As you can tell from my video, I passionately believe that I can make a difference, that there are millions of people in the world who would love and benefit from what I do, the virtual vacations, the holidays from home and the parties in your pad. My mission is to get them out there and into the right hands. With Marie's help I intend to do just that.
Valentine’s Day can be really difficult if you’re single. It’s even harder if you’re stuck at home. Instead of feeling the love, you end up feeling very alone.
What do you do if you’re ill or disabled and are unable to go out to have fun? If you’re bored of being stuck at home, sick of the same four walls?
The solution – you bring the party to you and I'm doing just that with my Party in your Pad. It breaks the isolation and monotony, by creating a fun, relaxing experience at home. It gives you something to look forward to, a way to enjoy the day, without having to be part of a couple.
On 14th February, I'll be throwing a Valentine’s Day Party in your Pad, celebrating friendship and love around the world; but party goers never leave the comfort of their own home.
Instead you get exclusive access to the online virtual party area, where you can download and print all the digital party content, everything you need to have a fabulous Party in your Pad.
The party goers also receive two virtual experiences, a virtual tea party in a rose garden and some virtual archery, Cupid style. They come as an e-book or audio that you can enjoy. They are similar to guided meditations; but are much more exciting than lying on a beach. It takes you on a journey through the imagination, allowing you to relax and have fun.
The last virtual party was for New Year’s Eve and we all had so much fun. It was great being able to share the party with other people. It made it that much more real.
“I must admit I wasn’t sure about signing up for the party, as I don’t like New Year much and the thought of doing something seemed a bit of an effort. I’m so glad I did though, as it was great. My family joined in with me and we all enjoyed it.” commented one guest.
No one should feel alone at any time of the year; but it’s often worse during public holidays. I want to use my experiences to help others have a good time, despite the daily challenges they face.
The virtual parties and holidays focus on escaping reality for a little while, returning feeling more relaxed and with lots of happy memories.
To join the Valentine's Day Party, and also access all the other Parties in your Pad I'm throwing in the next few months, then become a Live in Love in Laugh in member. Details here...
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For the past couple of weeks we've been buried in snow. Okay that's a slight exaggeration; but for Norfolk it was a lot. My limited trips out became even more limited as the roads turned to ice rinks.
Don't get me wrong, I love snow; it's one of my favourite things in the world, at least for about a week. After that I just want it to go so life can get back to normal.
Our garden has been hidden under a blanket of white and I was beginning to forget what it even looked like. There was no sign of it changing, of it going away and I had resigned myself to it. That was until last weekend when it rained all night on Saturday.
I woke up to see every last trace of snow had been washed away, to reveal the world looking bright and fresh in the winter sunshine. It was beautiful and exciting; but also quite shocking. I couldn't believe that something that looked so permanent had just vanished, literally overnight. It made me realise that things are changing all the time, often gradually, painfully slowly; but big changes can happen quickly too.
It gave me hope, a belief that being stuck didn't mean being stuck forever. Life is moving forward all the time, we just have to go with it and know that it's okay for it to move at a snail’s pace, because maybe we're just resting up before the big sprint of sudden change and growth.
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I wanted to wish you a merry Christmas. Where ever you are, whatever you are able to do, I hope it's a special day for you and that you find ways to be able to enjoy it.
It can be tough, if you're ill, alone, stuck in bed and feeling left out. You're not alone, there are others going through it too. I'm thinking of you and hoping that you can find some joy during the hard times.
I won the Good Housekeeping Novel Competition. My novel, The Choice, is published on 26th December 2019, by Orion
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Title: The Choice
Published: 26th December 2019
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